Saturday, February 4, 2023
No Result
View All Result
SUBSCRIBE
The Chimney Rock Chronicle
25 °f
Broadway
40 ° Sun
45 ° Mon
44 ° Tue
54 ° Wed
58 ° Thu
  • Home
    • About Us
    • Pickup Locations
  • Columns
    • All
    • Book Notes
    • Eating Well in the Real World
    • Fishing with Mike
    • From the Potting Shed
    • Fulks Run Follies
    • Gobbler Sports
    • Handy with Randy
    • Headlines from Plains Museum
    • Hiking With Ray
    • Local Business
    • Local Legends
    • Musings from the Woodpile
    • Personal & Professional Development
    • Randy's Ramblings
    • Reflections from a Fuller Life
    • Sarah's Recipes
    • The Gospel Vault
    • The View From Here
    • The Wandering Wilkins
    • When This You See
    Photograph of Ronnie Fulk

    Fulks Run Follies

    Floating in pool

    The Wandering Wilkins

    Dog in woods

    Hiking with Ray

    Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

    Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

    Breakfast Pocket

    Sarah’s Recipes

    Bass Fishing with Mike – December 2021

    Bass Fishing With Mike

    Photograph of Wes Dove

    It’s Not You, It’s Me

    Gospel Vault

    Gospel Vault

    Fair and Tender Ladies book cover. By Lee Smith

    Book Notes – Classic Southern Novels

    From the Potting Shed – December 2021

    From the Potting Shed

    Randy image

    Randy’s Ramblings

    Handy With Randy

    Handy With Randy

    The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

    The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

    Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

    Continuity for Off Broadway Players

    Hiking with Ray

    Hiking with Ray

    Trending Tags

    • Entertainment
      • All
      • Festivals
      • Kids Activites
      • Music
      • Off Broadway Players
      • Sports
      • Upcoming Events
      Kansas

      Hunting for the Lesser Prairie Chicken in the Cimarron National Grassland

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Bass Fishing with Mike – December 2021

      Bass Fishing With Mike

      A Spinning Demonstration

      A Hidden Gem in Plain View

      Rounding the Bases

      Rounding the Bases

      Local Scouts Learn Flag Folding Procedures

      Local Scouts Learn Flag Folding Procedures

      The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

      The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Continuity for Off Broadway Players

      Rounding the Bases

      Rounding the Bases

      • Off Broadway Players
    • History
      • All
      • Bev's Historic Notes
      The Chimney Rock VFW Celebrates 75 Years of Service

      The Chimney Rock VFW Celebrates 75 Years of Service

      HEADLINES From Plains District Memorial Museum

      Highlights from the Plains District Memorial Museum

      Bad Roads

      Revolutionary War Service

      Mattress Shopping

      Retta’s Column

      HEADLINES From Plains District Memorial Museum

      Headlines from PLAINS DISTRICT MEMORIAL MUSEUM

      The Miller Family of the Genoa Area

      The Miller Family of the Genoa Area

      The Lantz Family

      The Lantz Family

      Timberville Historic Notes

      Timberville Historic Notes

      Evaline, Dorcas, and Mae

      Evaline, Dorcas, and Mae

    • Our Sponsors
      • Advertising
    • Home
      • About Us
      • Pickup Locations
    • Columns
      • All
      • Book Notes
      • Eating Well in the Real World
      • Fishing with Mike
      • From the Potting Shed
      • Fulks Run Follies
      • Gobbler Sports
      • Handy with Randy
      • Headlines from Plains Museum
      • Hiking With Ray
      • Local Business
      • Local Legends
      • Musings from the Woodpile
      • Personal & Professional Development
      • Randy's Ramblings
      • Reflections from a Fuller Life
      • Sarah's Recipes
      • The Gospel Vault
      • The View From Here
      • The Wandering Wilkins
      • When This You See
      Photograph of Ronnie Fulk

      Fulks Run Follies

      Floating in pool

      The Wandering Wilkins

      Dog in woods

      Hiking with Ray

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Breakfast Pocket

      Sarah’s Recipes

      Bass Fishing with Mike – December 2021

      Bass Fishing With Mike

      Photograph of Wes Dove

      It’s Not You, It’s Me

      Gospel Vault

      Gospel Vault

      Fair and Tender Ladies book cover. By Lee Smith

      Book Notes – Classic Southern Novels

      From the Potting Shed – December 2021

      From the Potting Shed

      Randy image

      Randy’s Ramblings

      Handy With Randy

      Handy With Randy

      The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

      The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

      Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

      Continuity for Off Broadway Players

      Hiking with Ray

      Hiking with Ray

      Trending Tags

      • Entertainment
        • All
        • Festivals
        • Kids Activites
        • Music
        • Off Broadway Players
        • Sports
        • Upcoming Events
        Kansas

        Hunting for the Lesser Prairie Chicken in the Cimarron National Grassland

        Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

        Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

        Bass Fishing with Mike – December 2021

        Bass Fishing With Mike

        A Spinning Demonstration

        A Hidden Gem in Plain View

        Rounding the Bases

        Rounding the Bases

        Local Scouts Learn Flag Folding Procedures

        Local Scouts Learn Flag Folding Procedures

        The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

        The Midnight Ride of Paul Reve …the Moose Hunter

        Spotlight on the Off Broadway Players

        Continuity for Off Broadway Players

        Rounding the Bases

        Rounding the Bases

        • Off Broadway Players
      • History
        • All
        • Bev's Historic Notes
        The Chimney Rock VFW Celebrates 75 Years of Service

        The Chimney Rock VFW Celebrates 75 Years of Service

        HEADLINES From Plains District Memorial Museum

        Highlights from the Plains District Memorial Museum

        Bad Roads

        Revolutionary War Service

        Mattress Shopping

        Retta’s Column

        HEADLINES From Plains District Memorial Museum

        Headlines from PLAINS DISTRICT MEMORIAL MUSEUM

        The Miller Family of the Genoa Area

        The Miller Family of the Genoa Area

        The Lantz Family

        The Lantz Family

        Timberville Historic Notes

        Timberville Historic Notes

        Evaline, Dorcas, and Mae

        Evaline, Dorcas, and Mae

      • Our Sponsors
        • Advertising
      No Result
      View All Result
      The Chimney Rock Chronicle
      Subscribe
      Thank you to our Sponsors! Thank you to our Sponsors! Thank you to our Sponsors!
      Home Columns Personal & Professional Development

      Investing in Our Relationships

      Wes Dove by Wes Dove
      December 2, 2022
      in Columnists, Columns, Personal & Professional Development, Wes Dove
      Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

      Photograph of Wes DoveThink back to these three questions I challenged you to consider last time; Am I listening? Am I learning? Am I leading? For our communication to have a lasting positive impact on our most cherished relationships, I believe we need to be able to answer each of those questions with a resounding YES…

      Let’s face it, we all find ourselves in situations where getting our message across with someone we care is hard – and situations that could quickly become far worse if we don’t send the right message. Those are the ones that really depend on the upfront investments we’ve made into the relationship!
      In a lesson Cindy wrote a while back called How Leaders Improve Results by Balancing Candor with Care, she shared a few quotes she had picked up from John Maxwell on the topic:
      “Care without candor creates dysfunctional relationships. Candor without care creates distant relationships. But care balanced with candor creates developing relationships!”

      “Caring establishes the relationship and candor expands the relationship.”
      Each of those grabbed my attention when I first heard her share them with the group we were working with! I’ve seen quite a few of those dysfunctional relationships with all care and no candor, and I’ve also seen my share of the distant relationships that were heavy on the candor and way too light on the care. And honestly, I don’t think I need to give specifics because I’m quite sure you’re picturing examples of each as you read this…

      So what can each of us do to establish the proper balance of care and candor so we’re truly expanding the relationships that are most important to us?

      The first question we really need to consider is whether we’ve invested enough into the relationship to be candid. I’ve met more than a few people who seem to believe their sole purpose in life is pointing out the flaws in each person they come into contact with. They view this as doing that person a favor, kinda like swatting a pesky fly. However, their approach to swatting that fly can seem like they’ve used a hammer – and the fly was on our forehead – especially if they’ve never invested enough time with us to establish a strong relationship. Their candor may be well intended but is rarely received that way. In most cases, we tune it out completely because we don’t value the source or it just plain hurts!

      With that in mind, one of the best ways I’ve ever seen someone show they value a relationship is through the time they invest into it. When we give someone our most precious commodity, our time, that investment shows that we care. And with that foundation of care, we begin earning the right to be candid, especially if that candor is focused on building the person rather than tearing them down. Our friend Mark Cole said it this way, “Caring values the person while candor values the person’s potential.” But to be sure even candor that’s meant to build someone up is received well, there’s another question we’ll need to consider and that’s what we’ll dig into next time!

      Wes Dove

      Wes Dove

      Prior to founding Dove Development & Consulting, Wes and Cindy Dove developed strong professional resumes while working in both large corporations and small, family-owned businesses. In addition to extensive work in behavior-based safety throughout North America, Wes held responsibility for safety compliance, human resources, and personnel development in multiple industries. He and his wife, Cindy, are Executive Directors with The John Maxwell Team and serve on that organization’s President’s Advisory Council. They’re Certified Human Behavior Consultants through Personality Insights, and contributing authors for the book Discover Your Team’s Potential – Proven Principles To Help Engage Your Team & Improve Performance, which made the Amazon Best Sellers List in all three categories its listed in just a few weeks ago.

      Next Post
      Understanding the Holy Spirit – Part 4

      A Heart after God

      Popular Articles

      • Rounding the Bases

        Rounding the Bases

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Gone, But Not Forgotten

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • The Old Inn At Mauzy

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Handy With Randy

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Continuity for Off Broadway Players

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • The Blessing of the Pure in Heart

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Fulks Run Follies

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Eldon Layman: Retired Educator and Book Creator

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Unique Retreat on the Creek

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • Highlights of The Plains District Memorial Museum

        0 shares
        Share 0 Tweet 0
      • About Us
      • Advertising
      • Contact
      • Pick Up Locations

      © 2021 The Chimney Rock Chronicle - Website & E-Commerce by Bare Web Design, Broadway Va.

      No Result
      View All Result
      • Home
      • Columns
      • Entertainment
        • Festivals
        • Kids Activites
        • Music
      • History
      • Sports
        • Thank you to our Sponsors!
        • Advertising

      © 2021 The Chimney Rock Chronicle - Website & E-Commerce by Bare Web Design, Broadway Va.